Category: The Work

The Need To Break Through

break·​through | \ ˈbrāk-ˌthrü \ 3a: a sudden advance especially in knowledge or technique The Merriam-Webster Dictionary We all have obstacles between where we are, and where we need to be. Notice that I used need, as opposed to want. For the purposes of this discussion, I’m talking about our mental and emotional states. What we need in order to… Continue reading The Need To Break Through

The Importance of Being Honest

Let me kick this off with some honesty: I still maintain standards for myself that are, at times, unrealistic or too exacting. When I expect myself to be flawless in my Magic gameplay, or further along in my personal goals than is realistic, I will still get incredibly frustrated with myself. It can shift those… Continue reading The Importance of Being Honest

Best Self

What's up, danger?

From the moment we are born, there will be people around us who will try to tell us what we should be doing, how we should be acting, and by what metrics we should be measuring our success. The influences of our families, societies, popular media, and a host of other sources try to inform… Continue reading Best Self

500 Words on Redemption

The premise for this post began thusly: “Everybody loves a redemption story.” This is something that has been said to me, and about me, in the past. And there are a lot of stories on the subject out there. We want to believe that the people we love, and by extension ourselves, are people that… Continue reading 500 Words on Redemption

The Challenge of New Choices

There are some things in our lives that we don’t get to choose. I didn’t choose to be born bipolar or bisexual. People close to me didn’t choose how they were born, either. Naturally, others will treat those things as if they are choices, saying things like “just try being the gender you were born… Continue reading The Challenge of New Choices

500 Words on Entitlement

Here’s a simple question: what do you feel you are owed? If you put in hours and hours of your time at a job, you are owed compensation for that time, right? That’s how jobs work. If your employer says they don’t owe you anything, you have rights. You can sue their asses. You earned… Continue reading 500 Words on Entitlement

An Open Letter of Apology

"The fault, dear Brutus, is not in our stars, but in ourselves."

In a previous post, I endeavored to explore and explain the root cause of the damaging, self-sabotaging, and toxic behaviors that lead me to my most recent hospitalization and the ramifications still being felt by those who were once partners, friends, and associates. I opened with a general apology, but did not dig into the… Continue reading An Open Letter of Apology

Getting Good at Starting Over

Hi. It’s been a while. And I’m not sure we’ve actually met. I don’t think this is comfortable for anyone involved. There are a lot of people, who saw who I was and tried to be there for me, that think of me or look in my direction and are completely baffled by or uncertain… Continue reading Getting Good at Starting Over

500 Words on Dynamism

Everything changes. I’m finding myself thinking about the paradigm in Mage: the Ascension that some refer to as the Metaphysical Trinity. It’s a cycle that consists of Dynamism, Stasis, and Entropy. As I prepare to leave the start-up life behind, hopefully forever, and move into a position in life that is more stable and less inducing of constant… Continue reading 500 Words on Dynamism